Be sure to hop over to Gathering Leaves today to read Cassies interview with me. 🙂
Today’s guest poster is Wendy Randolph, a distant cousin of mine. My grandfather and her grandmother were siblings. I “met” Wendy online while researching part of my family tree. I’ll let Wendy tell you a little about herself.
Wendy Randolph: I grew up in a little desert town called Trona in California. I have 4 sisters and 3 brothers and I’m the oldest. I have an Associates degree in general studies from Ricks College (now called BYU-Idaho) in Idaho. This is where I met my husband Chris and we were married a little over 13 years ago and now live in Provo, Utah. We have 6 children (4 daughters and 2 sons ages 12 1/2 years – 2 months old). I enjoy digital scrapbooking, photography, reading, and love to be outdoors and love sports. I like going on walks, and being with my family. And I in no way profess to be perfect at anything except being completely imperfect! And I love CHOCOLATE and PEANUT BUTTER — and mostly those two together. That’s me in a nutshell.
“You know you have a newborn when …..”
I just had a baby recently, (Sept 6, 2011). Here’s her birth story part 1 and part 2 if you are curious. She was a bit of a surprise when we found out we were expecting. But we love her even more because she was a surprise. So now you know what I’ve been doing for the last several weeks … dealing with life and adjusting to living with and caring for another human being. So it got me thinking about life as a mother. I know that not every woman who has ever wanted to be a mother has had that chance for whatever reason at this point in their lives, and this isn’t to make you feel bad.
But in my journey this go around, I have five other children besides the baby — yes that’s right I have 6 kids and that’s where we are stopping. And I’m no longer in my 20’s like I was when I had all my other children and the age thing is really affecting me this time, or at least I feel that it is –and I’m not even that old either. It’s amazing how much you tend to forget between children especially when there is a 4 and half year gap (almost) between them. And of course every baby is different and circumstances are different so you have to learn to deal with things in a different way. But some things stay constant, the baby needs to be loved!! And fed, will most definitely need diaper changes and they will CRY.
And I find it amazing how when something in my life changes like when I found out I was pregnant, then I started seeing pregnant women all over the place (of course, living in Utah that isn’t difficult to see). But I notice them more when I am expecting, than when I’m not. Now that I have a 6 week old baby I notice little tiny babies everywhere. (because those are the results of all the pregnant mama’s I was seeing while I was preggo.) Am I the only one that experiences this?
So as I was thinking about this I realized that I have noticed a few things about moms with newborns that I really love.
- They can look at their baby with such love and wonder. Nothing more special than seeing the gaze a mother gives her precious little baby and the happiness you can see in her countenance.
- All mothers with a newborn will be completely tired and get up and go on with life despite being so tired. How do I know this …. ? I see moms with newborns and young babies and if you observe long enough you see all the “yawns” and sometimes the face will show the tiredness. (I am also in this category.) But we try to push through so we can still feel like we are good mothers.
- Ladies with newborns, quickly learn to multitask. (Or at least attempt to — sometimes it isn’t successful)
- And no matter how tough it gets, or how messy things are, we always get done what is really important and nothing is more important than taking care of a precious little baby who has come to earth from God above.
There are more things I’m sure but these are the ones that stood out to me. And I have plenty of friends that are moms and most have had babies within this last year and I asked them to fill in the blank to the following:
You know you have a newborn when …….(Fill in the blank) I got some good responses and most of which I completely agree with, so thanks to those who helped me out on this.
- When you forget he/she is even there until he/she starts crying… Haha!!!
- You get used to having a wet shoulder 🙂
- You can’t remember the last time you did something with two free hands.
- It’s cute to be peed, pooped, or barfed on 🙂 — (HOWEVER, I don’t completely agree with this one though)
- You can’t remember the last time you got to sleep straight through the night
- When you use phrases like, “putting my hand directly in the poop seemed the only practical solution at the time…” (This wasn’t me, but a friend of mine has actually used this – now I wonder what that story is, or do I ?)
- Your wardrobe centers around easy access to your breasts 😉 (Completely agree with this one)
- When poo becomes part of your every day concerns.
- You wake up at night and look at the clock and are pleasantly surprised that four whole hours have gone by since you were last awake. (This is completely true with me right now — when it’s that long I get really excited.)
- When you realize that it has been a few days since you’ve had a shower.
- You plan your day around feedings and naptime.
- You worry about your milk supply and you don’t mean gallons of milk in the fridge.
- You develop superhero powers like catching spit up one handed while simultaneously doing something with the other hand all while bouncing that baby on your hip and making sure dinner doesn’t burn.
And probably my two favorite responses …
- When you never thought you would be able to be up every two hours for a feeding, but somehow you manage to do it and love doing it!! (This one comes from a friend who is a first time mother)
- When you are holding that baby in your arms and you realize you have never known a greater love than being a mom or smelled a sweeter smell of a fresh bathed baby 🙂
Being a mother is tough work and requires all our time and energy. But if you can see and appreciate the sweet moments in life it makes all the other things that are hard to do that more worth it. And as a way to find the humor in my life as a mother I have another blog that I write down all the funny things that they either say or do and I love to go back and read these things as they have gotten older and the memories are so fun to relive over and over. So find those moments in life that bring you true happiness and treasure it.
And to finish off … here’s a quote about mothers that I love
” My dear sisters, do not pray for tasks equal to your abilities, but pray for abilities equal to your tasks. Then the performance of your tasks will be no miracle, but you will be the miracle.” –President Thomas S. Monson
So tell me, you know you have a newborn when …..(fill in the blank)?
[We’d love to hear your comments–Sue]
www.myfivelittlepeople.blogspot.com — Wendy’s family related blog…
www.creamofthecropdesigns.wordpress.com –Wendy’s photography blog