My guest poster for today is Emily Casey.
Emily is a stay-at-home mom of two little crazy kids. She chases them around all day before collapsing in front of her computer to write. She’s about to publish a YA book, The Fairy Tale Trap, about a girl who gets stuck in the fairy tale Beauty and the Beast. Emily is on Twitter @EmilyCaseysMuse. She loves to talk about dogs, Doctor Who, writing, gardening, running, kids, cooking, you name it! You can find out more about her at her website, MuseFire.
Thanks Sue, for letting me write here today.
While poking around the site, I noticed a lot about Sue’s life and what’s important to her. You really get a good glimpse of Sue as a person, just by reading her blog. Most of her readers are writers, so naturally, when we come together, we talk about our writing. But we all have other interests, too. We’re all human, and we can only spend so many hours a week with our characters before we have to focus our attention on something else.
I’m a mother. I have a three-year-old girl and a one-year-old boy. I’m busy. On a regular basis, I think to myself, “I just didn’t have enough time to write.” Yet, I get my books done in a reasonable amount of time. How is that possible? My kids are so demanding, I also cook dinner and keep the house (relatively) clean. I fold laundry, drive the kids around, visit friends and family, volunteer at church, take care of the dog, and go running. How on EARTH do I have time for all that and still get my books done?
If I spent all my time with my kids, I‘d lose my mind. I love them, but I need to be away from them sometimes (like bedtime, or when my husband watches them while I make dinner). If I did nothing but sit at my computer all day and didn’t move, I’d be cranky and I’d have a headache from staring at the screen all day. If I ran all day, I’d probably die. But these things are a blessing in my life. They bring me joy and they keep each other in check.
So I do a little bit of everything. Not every day. I don’t run on Sundays or Wednesdays. I don’t do housework on the weekends. I usually don’t write on Thursdays or Sundays. I focus on my family and church on the weekends. I try not to watch tv unless I’m folding laundry.
These little rules work for me. By setting small limits on my demands, I don’t feel guilty about not finding writing time on Thursday. Because, well, it’s Thursday. And then when Friday rolls around, I’m itching to get back to my characters.
So yes, I’m a writer, but I do more than that. I’m a mother, a runner, a Christian, a dog lover, and a Whovian (because Doctor Who is possibly the greatest show ever). If I wasn’t all of those things, I’d be less of a writer.
So I ask you: what are your passions? What helps you find balance?
Visit Emily at MuseFire.